S.W.A.P. Answers

Friday, January 11, 2013

Here’s a Bible question from one of our SWAPs:

Q: How do I deal with a person in the church who has sinned against me, but acts as if nothing happened?

SM: That’s a great question! We know this is a tough situation to be in especially attending the same congregation as someone who has hurt you. It can be awkward, discouraging, and even difficult to worship God, however there is a way to get through this. The first thing to consider is forgiveness. First, if this person has hurt you and hasn’t apologized (or doesn’t realize they’ve hurt you), you still should forgive them anyway so that your spirit can be restored. You don’t want to carry around a grudge that could easily be released.

Next, the scripture reminds us to go to the person who has wronged us. Matthew 18:15-16 says, “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.”

You will have to gather yourself and go to this person. Pray first! Ask for the spirit’s leading and for the appropriate words to speak. Let the person know what is on your heart and how you feel. Pull them to the side alone as the scripture says and bring the offence to their attention. If they do not hear you, ask another trusted spiritual individual to come with you to assist you in settling the matter until it is rectified. We are positive that stepping up and making the first move will more than anything help settle your spirit and eventually help restore your relationship so that you can move on.

We thank you for your question and pray that it will help you in drawing closer to God!

If you have a question that you would like a Bible answer to email us at swapideas2011@gmail.com by Wednesday of each week, so that we can all continue to grow together!

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  1. Hello sisters in christ,

    I had the same thing happen to me. That person hurt me deeply.. I shared this with that person and they knew they hurt me. It was not there intentions but it took me sometime to believe it and them. I felt used, mislead, etc.and that they knew what they were doing from the start. The pain was great and is getting better. I felt humiliated, shame, embarrassment when it was all said and done. This person allowed me as long as it takes to express how I was feeling at anytime and that they were praying for God's healing for me. Well, I just keep reading what it says in the scriptures, praying and reading S.W.A.P book its over now (sorry if I did not get the name exact) I would suggest u read it to.. it is helping me...



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