Midweek Push: Real Love (Part 2)

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.” (John 7:24)

Each week we will examine a scenario, our natural judgment towards the scenario, and address how we should approach the scenario through the real love of Christ.


We notice a teen girl in our church assembly who is always changing her appearance. She’s gone from looking nice in her dresses to wearing baggy clothes and baseball caps. She’s also started cursing and being cruel.

Judgmental Assumption:

We assume she’s rebellious and on drugs. She may even be pregnant; you know how these young people are today. She is disrespecting authority and making a mockery of the house of God. She obviously will do anything to get attention. It’s just a shame.

Real Love:

We honestly don’t know what this teen has going on. She is a teenager after all, and with adolescence comes the stages of identity and acceptance. What have you done lately to make the young ladies of your congregation feel welcome and accepted? Or do you just talk about them under your breath? She may be covering up because an older male or female has made advances at her. She may be self-conscious about her body. She may have been sexually assaulted. Have you made yourself available as a listening ear? How would you encourage her?

We often wonder why our youth have left the church; yet have we asked whether or not the adults have shown that being a Christian can be exciting and that worship can be uplifting versus mundane? Also, let's not miss the fact that she’s still coming to worship with the saints! Have we forgotten what it was like to be a teenager? Before jumping into judgments, let’s be the example we want our young ladies to model. If this teen girl looked up to you, what would she see? Would she see God or a gossip? Would she see Christ or a complainer? Would she see the Holy Spirit or a Hellish Schemer?

Real love would establish a relationship before isolating our young ladies. Real love would offer assistance before offering unsolicited advice. Real love models Christ; it does not criticize our youth.

Scriptures to Reflect On:

Psalm 25:7
1 Timothy 4:12
James 4:11-12

How would you show real love in this scenario?

"This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another." (1 John 4:10-11)

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