Midweek Push: Real Love (Part 4)

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.” (John 7:24)

Each week we will examine a scenario, our natural judgment towards the scenario, and address how we should approach the scenario through the real love of Christ.


You’re sitting in the salon talking to a lady about yesterday’s Women’s Empowerment Conference. You’re pumped as you share how God’s Word moved you to tears and now you’re jumping for joy to share the gospel and the newfound peace you’ve received over the weekend. The lady very kindly says, “I stopped doing church a long time ago and I just don’t see what all the hype is about your God and your church meetings. Where was God when I needed Him? I get tired of women yapping on about their women’s workshops and empowerment conferences. I’m glad you enjoyed yourself, but the church thing is just not for me.”

Judgmental Assumption:

You’re appalled and all you can think is what does this heathen know! You begin sizing her up as to just how messed up she is because she doesn’t “have God.” You assume she’s going to hell and it’s your duty to tell her that her belief system is all wrong.

Real Love:

Your harsh, legalistic, matter-of-fact, I've got all the answers approach could push this woman further away from God. Before beating her down with the scriptures, you could begin by asking her what happened that turned her heart from God and the church. Are you even interested in understanding why she felt God wasn’t there when she needed Him or do you just assume that the very words that you’re about to speak will save her heathen soul? Not everyone has had the same experiences spiritually, so every situation must be approached differently. Right now she needs someone to listen to her, not judge her or preach to her. She undoubtedly is hurting so offer comfort. Extend grace and tell her how much God loves her.

Real love listens, not lectures. Real love discusses, not debates. Real love lives out the word; not just talks a good game about the word. Real love opens the heart before opening the mouth.

Scriptures to Reflect On:

Ecclesiastes 3:1,7
1 Corinthians 3:6
2 Corinthians 3:2
Colossians 4:6

How would you show real love in this scenario?

"This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another." (1 John 4:10-11)

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  1. I would listen to her and ask what happen, why she feels that way then I would tell how we as people should not push people away because of how they feel, but show them and teach them that God is the way we go and to tell her that I one day hope that her heart and mind change because he work for our good.

    1. Excellent way to show real love!!!! You truly are a woman after God's own heart!!

      Thank you for being a sister with a purpose!


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