Believest Thou Are His: Lesson 3

Monday, February 17, 2014

And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction:” (1 Corinthians 7:35)


If you’re a single woman, you may wonder if something is wrong with you. We’re here to declare that there is NOTHING wrong with you, and yet, so many things right with you being single! God has claimed you as His own prized possession to take care of, love, mold, guide, lead, and use for His glory. You are His and being His is a great thing to be!

So, why do we have such a hard time seeing the profit of singleness?

When we’re looking at singleness from our own understanding, from the point of view of others, and society’s standards, we’re missing the big picture of what God sees. God sees our lives in its entirety. He doesn’t see you as a single, never married 43-year old, or a newly divorced 54-year old, or recently widowed 33-year old; He has a high tower where He sees your entire life in a moment. He sees you from before the beginning of time through to the never-ending border of eternal life. He sees ALL of you…and your singleness, regardless of the phase, has a purpose!

When we look at singleness from God’s high tower (Psalm 18:2; 144:2) we’re elevated to a position of worthiness not loneliness. We’re raised to see ourselves as chosen not forsaken. When we look at singleness from God’s high tower, this position becomes very promising, very profitable, very pleasing!

God sees things we can’t from His high tower.

As singles, we look at the presumed happiness of the married and think we’re missing out on true love. God sees that right around the corner, He’s about to pour out a blessing of pure love by providing for you when you’re down to your last, protecting you from a scandal that could ruin your reputation, or placing you in a position of greatness because His favor reigns supreme.

God sees things that we want from His high tower.

God sees you longing for marriage, which is only a temporary facet of life, yet He longs for you to choose His everlasting covenant of salvation. Marriage is a thing of the earth (Matthew 22:30) and is not required for our fulfillment. Trusting God, in your singleness, brings an unexplained contentment and a peace that passeth all understanding.  So we must not get caught up in desiring what marriage appears to promise.

What angle are you looking from?

As a single woman, you’re not wrong for not being married; you’re right where you belong. Your identity isn’t tied up in having a husband and 2.3 kids; but rather your identity is wrapped up in Him because you’re in Christ. In Christ, when God looks from his high tower and sees you cloaked in His Son, He will liberally give you the desires of your heart. What do you see from the high tower?

Paul was telling the unmarried and married of the church that he would not subject them to a way of life not given by God. For us today, God won’t bind us in a position that He would not consider an advantage to us, nor that would not glorify Him. He can use anyone, anyway, anywhere in his or her walk to bring Him praise. That includes you!

We should not feel worse off because of our relationship status. We should look at our singleness from the high tower! God desires that we see ourselves as He sees us...not as alone, but as cherished, redeemed, and beautiful! When we stop singing the blues of singleness and start looking from the high tower of hope, we will then see the many advantages and profits of being His.

Questions for Reflection:

1) Are you looking at singleness as something bad or something profitable?

2) What has kept you from seeing the profit of singleness?

3) What profits of singleness do you see from looking at your life from the high tower?

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