Believest Thou Are Virtuous (Part 3)

Monday, November 17, 2014

But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)


You would think by looking at the characteristic chart of the virtuous woman that she could do no wrong; that she was domestically, occupationally, and spiritually flawless. But one thing we know from scripture is that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).

We can safely assume that even the Virtuous woman was once outside of God’s will, but we know that she also was a woman who feared the Lord (Proverbs 31:30). When we fear God, we reverence His name, respect His will, and walk in His ways. Any woman who carries herself as if she has no faults or if she has never been encumbered by sin in her life is posing as a Superwoman!

A virtuous woman doesn’t hide the fact that she’s fallen short before. She learns to admit and confess her faults, ask forgiveness, and tries to quit walking down that path and head in the direction of God.

So why do we often cover up and conceal our faults? Is it because we want people to like us; are we ashamed of what they’d think if we were really honest? Perhaps we’re obsessed with having attention, intimacy, and praise.

Maybe you’ve become entangled in an emotional affair with a married man, or you’ve cheated on your taxes, or you’ve spread lies about a sister you don’t like in the church, or you pretend that the foods you make for your child’s school functions are homemade when they’re actually store bought…

Whatever the case, we’ve come to share that the virtuous woman of God learns to admit her faults and quit her wrongdoings. She doesn’t live like Superwoman; refusing to be wrong, deceiving others to believe she's something she's not, or refusing to say she’s messed up and needs to change.

Don’t be like Sarah who denied laughing about having a child in her old age: It’s okay to admit you’re skeptical, just don’t let it keep you from trusting God.

Don’t be like Sapphira who lied about holding back money alongside her husband: You don’t have to be a co-conspirator to wrong just because your husband chooses to lie.

If you’ve been blaming others for your misfortune and for the problems you’ve gotten yourself into, it’s time to admit your faults, quit pointing the finger, and start living for the Lord. If you’ve lied to get to where you are in your career, then it’s time to admit your faults, quit deceiving others in order to succeed, and allow God to exalt you. If you’ve been fussing with your husband about paying a bill that you forgot about paying, it’s time to admit your fault, quit stirring up discord in your marriage, and pray for God to help you to be more focused and sure of things you’re doing.

Our Father desires honest, virtuous women, who are not ashamed to admit their faults. The woman in Proverbs wasn’t chosen as a wise example because she had it all together. Oh no, this virtuous woman was able to humble herself, admit if she’s messed up, and quit any behavior that didn’t indicate that she feared the Lord!

The point of admitting and quitting is that we don’t want you to just admit your faults and leave yourself out there naked and vulnerable. We want to encourage you to lean on a S.A.P. who is there to listen so that you don’t have to do it alone. It’s also about making the necessary changes to be better in the future than you have in the past. Concealing our faults is not a sign of a virtuous woman; it’s the pure confession between you and God for secret sins and going to your brother or sister whom you’ve sinned against which make us more virtuous. It's the deep, committed devotion to an all-powerful God, not the lifting up of self. The woman who fears the Lord admits if she’s been at fault and quits her wrongdoing. She lives her life virtuously – virtually – for the Lord!

Questions for Reflection 

1. Is there something you’re holding on to that you need to admit and quit?
2. Name 3 ways you can quit engaging in sins that keep you from being virtuous.
3. Have you prayed about the faults you’re dealing with? Write out a prayer to God admitting your wrongs and ask for guidance on how to quit them and live for Him.

Thank you:

For each of you that have taken this journey with us, we thank you and are praying for you. We’re praying for your strength as you daily let go of superwoman in order to be the virtuous woman God created you to be! Feel free to share your comments on "Admit It then Quit It" below. We'd love to hear from you! Also, swap this lesson with others and encourage them to grow with us!

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  1. Greetings and salutations! I was truly moved be the message above. I noticed the questions of reflection and I looked at myself really hard and this is what I came up with for the first two.

    1. Is there something you’re holding on to that you need to admit and quit?

    Yes... I need to remember that I am not always going to be right. I am not perfect but I can do my best, but there are going to be times that I will mess up... and that's ok because there is somebody who always has my back and He is able to give me everything I need to succeed and finish the race!

    2. Name 3 ways you can quit engaging in sins that keep you from being virtuous.

    Number 1: I should come to a realization that what I am doing is actually SIN and has the potential to separate me from God if I let it. Number 2: I need to realize that the reward or temporary high that I am getting from that sin is nothing in comparison to the reward that God has promised. Number 3: Jesus >===>DIED<===< so that we may all have a chance at salvation... so then why continue to give in to the very thing He died to deliver us from.


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