Transformational Thursday

Thursday, August 20, 2015

A generational curse is not God putting a jinx or a spell on your family; but rather it is the consequences of unhealthy traditions passed down from one generation to the next. These actions lead to sin, which separate us from God.

 “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” 
(Romans 12:18, NIV)

Transformational Thursday

Wash your hands. Don’t litter. No smoking inside. Cover your mouth when you cough. Wear a mask.

Any of those phrases sound familiar? We are sure at some point in your life you’ve either said or been told to do one of those “protective” things. Why? Because somewhere along the way we’ve learned the detriment that pollution, germs, and toxins can do to our bodies.

So, what about the spread of generational toxins which keep us in an unhealthy state mentally and spiritually? We’ve allowed the polluted vapors passed down from family member after family member to consume us. For example, you’re mad at Uncle Winslow because your father is mad at him. Or you’re not talking to cousin Sue because your sister isn’t talking to her; nobody talks to Lil’ Junebug because of the trouble he got into years ago. Yet you have no clue what happened, but the spread of the toxin has penetrated your spirit and now there’s a strain in your relationship with that person.

Life is too precious for us to be consumed with, to be surrounded by, or to become toxic. If you take a look at your family, we’re sure you’ll find several toxic people whom you may want to steer clear of:

The family abuser only knows how to communicate by lashing out verbally and physically. They embarrass you at the family functions, by bringing up your past mistakes and mistreating you in order to be heard.

The family manipulator tries to control every situation, bullying you into submission. They attempt to control your decisions and take charge of your life. They're the expert on what’s best for you; not you, and especially not God.

The family pouter is always pointing the blame at others for where they are in life. Either they didn't get to achieve their dreams because of sacrifices they made for you or others, or it’s your fault that they’ve failed at anything they tried to do.

The trusty enabler of the family makes you feel guilty if you don’t take care of them. No matter what you have going on in your life, their urgency, becomes your emergency so you have to drop whatever you’re doing to fix their problem.

If you know (or are) these toxic persons, it’s time to break the generational curse! It's not healthy to continue holding on to family pain, no matter who is saying you should. To identify the generational curse of toxicity, ask yourself:

1) Am I living at peace with everyone in my family? If not, what can I do to change this? Have I exhausted all of my options or am I running from the responsibility of stepping up? 

Now we understand that some people are so toxic that the best thing you can do is pray for them from a distance. But we’re not talking about those people, we're asking you to examine why you're still holding a grudge against _____________?

2) Am I a stumbling block for my family? Is my life the negative link in our family legacy? Am I responsible for giving birth to bitterness, jealousy, and tit for tat behaviors?

The problem plaguing the family could very well be us. At this point, we need to either seek professional help for our addictive behaviors or begin to call on the Lord for release from strongholds.

3) Am I willing to forgive? 

Why are you holding a grudge against your family member? Why are they holding it against you or coercing you to treat another family member badly?

What can you do to break the generational curse in your family?

Wash your hands: Stop holding grudges (Leviticus 19:18, Matthew 6:14-15)
Don’t litter: Stop treating God's word as trash next to family traditions (Psalm 50:16-17)
No smoking inside: Clear your heart and learn to forgive (Proverbs 19:11)
Cover your mouth when you cough: Stop carrying a toxin that’s making your family sick (Proverbs 10:12)
Wear a mask: Cover yourself in grace and truth (Romans 13:13-14, Colossians 3:10-12)

Once you identify what has been plaguing your family, you are responsible for breaking it…the cycle stops with you.

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  1. ALL I can say is that's my family and my GOD is the ONLY answer, but still I PRAY. THANKS for the message. SO TRUE!

    1. Yes our God is a healer and restorer! He does His part and each of us do ours!! Prayer works!​

  2. Thank you for that message!!! Truly something I needed!!!

    1. We're so glad this message helped and encouraged you! God be thanked!


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